– Idy NG
Understanding Mindset and Its Importance
As an educator and a mother of two precious boys, I have come to appreciate how our mindset profoundly shapes our perceptions of experiences, influencing our thoughts, behaviors, ambitions, and relationships. Essentially, it serves as a lens through which we interpret the world. There are two primary types of mindsets: fixed and growth. Understanding these concepts can empower us to guide our children—and ourselves—toward a more constructive and adaptable outlook.
The Difference Between Fixed Mindset and Growth Mindset
The terms “fixed mindset” and “growth mindset” were popularized by psychologist Carol Dweck in 2006. These mindsets begin to form early in life.
- Fixed Mindset: Individuals with a fixed mindset believe that intelligence and abilities are static. They often shy away from challenges, fearing that failure reflects a lack of intelligence. This mindset leads to a focus on results rather than progress, making them reluctant to exert effort in areas where they feel they lack skill.
- Growth Mindset: In contrast, those with a growth mindset view intelligence as something that can be developed through effort, learning, and perseverance. They embrace challenges and see failures as opportunities for growth, fostering resilience and allowing individuals to draw inspiration from the success of others.
Real-Life Examples from the Classroom
As an educator, I’ve witnessed firsthand how a growth mindset can transform students. One notable example involves my International Baccalaureate (IB) Diploma Programme students as they work on their Theory of Knowledge (TOK) essays. TOK requires students to explore the nature of knowledge by connecting it to real-life experiences and critically examining topics from various perspectives within diverse contexts. Many students initially feel overwhelmed, believing their ideas are insufficient. However, encouraging them to view their essays as works in progress underlines the importance of refining their thoughts through consultation and reflection. This collaborative process not only enhances their writing but also deepens their understanding of how knowledge manifests in different situations. Each revision becomes an opportunity for learning and growth, helping them embrace the iterative nature of both TOK and their educational journey.
As a class teacher for senior students facing the IB exams, there is a shared understanding of the immense pressure and frustration they experience, which can sometimes lead to emotional swings and larger challenges. Fostering a growth mindset and a positive attitude within the classroom helps build resilience among students. This resilience empowers them to navigate their challenges and move forward positively. By focusing on effective stress management and time management skills, students learn to tackle problems head-on, reducing anxiety and enhancing their overall performance.
Another example is with my IB visual arts candidates, who are developing their art portfolios. The creative process is often fraught with challenges, from conceptualizing ideas to executing them effectively. Students are guided through the thinking and development process, with reminders that striving for excellence is often challenging but essential for artistic growth. Artistic expression is inherently sentimental and requires deep thought, and a positive attitude paired with a growth mindset can greatly enhance this creative journey. Through the consultation process, students are encouraged to explore happier and more uplifting themes for their art, shifting focus away from darker subjects often influenced by the pressures of exams, self-assurance, and family expectations. By delving into positive topics, the art-making process becomes more engaging, fostering a sense of fulfillment and positively influencing both themselves and those around them. Progress and the lessons learned from each project are celebrated, reinforcing the idea that persistence and effort lead to mastery.
Embracing Growth Mindset as a Parent
As a mother of my firstborn, Sam, the pandemic brought many challenges that highlighted the profound impact a growth mindset can have in parenting. During this time, both Sam and I were confined at home, engaging in Zoom teaching and learning. The effectiveness of this remote learning was uncertain at the outset, and the lack of in-person interaction, outdoor activity, sunshine, and fresh air took a toll on everyone’s well-being. Recognizing this difficult social situation, there was an opportunity to foster resilience and character in Sam.
To create a sense of community, breakfast was initiated in front of the Zoom camera with my students before each lesson. As everyone entered the Zoom meeting, they placed their breakfast in front of the computer camera, allowing us to virtually share a meal together before going to “school.” It was heartwarming to see the variety—some students enjoyed Chinese buns, others had local Hong Kong curly noodles with eggs, while some brought sandwiches, and a few mentioned they were on a diet and only had coffee. This sweet ritual became a cherished memory, reinforcing our connection despite the distance.
With Sam, the learning experience was also made special. I took him to the beach for his Zoom classes, where he set up a tent and a camping chair in the sand. He happily danced to the kindergarten hello song and weather song, his bare feet in the sand, while the sea and breeze provided a lively backdrop for the class. This creative approach not only made learning more enjoyable for Sam but also brought a refreshing and vibrant atmosphere to the overall Zoom experience, reminding everyone that even in challenging times, joy and connection can thrive.
One moment that deeply touched me occurred during our bedtime story routine when Sam was just 2 years and 5 months old. As I prepared to read to him, he pointed with his little finger at the words in the storybook and said, “Mama, I don’t know these words. I want to know these words, and I want to read by myself.” Hearing him express such a desire to learn and grow moved me profoundly. It was a beautiful affirmation of the growth mindset I had been trying to nurture in him, illustrating that even at a young age, he was beginning to understand the value of perseverance and the belief that effort leads to improvement. By adding the “yet” mentality to our conversations, we emphasized that while he might not know those words now, with practice and persistence, he would be able to read them one day. This simple shift in thinking reinforced the idea that learning is a journey, and every challenge is an opportunity for growth.
For instance, when Sam encountered difficulties with learning to swim, he initially felt frustrated. However, recalling his belief that everything can be learned, he pushed through the challenges. While he had his coach guiding him, I swam nearby, not looking at him to avoid disturbing his focus. This also allowed me a bit of precious “me-time,” especially since it was still my maternity holiday after giving birth to Guddy, my second son. After finishing my “moon-sitting” period, I joined Sam for swimming lessons.
After our swimming lesson, I took Sam to explore the community in Lam Tin, a local area we had never visited before. We enjoyed some time at the public library and then headed to the local wet market, where we bought “cha siu,” the sweet Chinese pork that Sam loves so much.
Despite his initial excitement about being in the water, Sam was on the verge of giving up swimming because he didn’t find it interesting; he preferred just playing with water rather than engaging in formal training. By sharing my own stories of struggle and persistence in learning new skills, I reinforced the idea that learning requires time and effort. It became essential to help him see that swimming could be enjoyable and rewarding with practice. By nurturing this growth mindset, I aim to create an environment where Sam feels safe to take risks and learn from mistakes, understanding that every setback is simply a stepping stone to greater achievements.
It’s essential to remember that fostering a growth mindset is not a solo endeavor, especially for younger children. They thrive in a supportive environment where growth and positive thinking are part of daily life. By seizing every opportunity—whether during playtime, homework, or even in casual conversations—we can subtly reinforce these concepts. It’s not about making grand gestures; it’s about integrating positive thinking into the fabric of everyday life.
Strategies for Fostering a Growth Mindset
To effectively foster a growth mindset, I have organized the following strategies in a specific order. This sequence starts with self-awareness and understanding, moves through practical approaches, and culminates in modeling behavior, which is critical for instilling these concepts in both children and adults.
1. Self-Discovery and Reflection
Encouraging self-discovery is crucial for cultivating a growth mindset. I’ve found that helping children and students reflect on their feelings, challenges, and achievements helps them build confidence and learn from their experiences.
For Sam, we often talk about his day at bedtime, discussing what made him feel proud or frustrated. Recently, when he was upset about not being able to climb a particularly high slide at the playground, I asked him, “How did it feel to try? What can you do differently next time?” These questions encouraged him to think about effort rather than just the result.
In the classroom, I use reflective journals and group discussions to help students analyze their progress and learn from their mistakes. These moments of self-discovery remind them that growth is a process, not an instant result.
2. Embracing Neuroplasticity
Teaching children and students that their brains are constantly growing is incredibly empowering. I often compare the brain to a sponge with Sam, explaining that every time he learns something new, the sponge absorbs a little more. His excitement when he understands this concept is palpable—it makes challenges feel like opportunities.
In my classroom, I explain neuroplasticity through real-life examples. For instance, I share stories of how I learned new skills, such as cooking or painting, by practicing repeatedly. This helps students understand that intelligence and abilities are not fixed—they can grow with effort and determination.
3. Cultivating a “Yet” Mentality
The word yet has become a cornerstone of my parenting and teaching. When Sam says, “I can’t do this,” I immediately add, “yet.” It’s a simple word, but it reframes his thinking, reminding him that he is on a path to improvement.
In school, I’ve implemented a “yet board,” where students write things they’re struggling with but want to achieve. For example, one student wrote, “I can’t solve quadratic equations yet.” Over time, they revisit the board and cross out achievements, which reinforces the power of persistence.
4. Encouraging Resilience Through Challenges
Resilience is like a muscle—it grows stronger the more we use it. I try to model this for Sam by sharing my own struggles. For example, when I burned a cake while baking, I laughed and said, “Oops, I guess I need to try again!” This showed him that setbacks are normal and part of learning.
In my classroom, I encourage students to view challenges as puzzles to solve. When working on a TOK essay, for instance, I ask them to break the challenge into smaller, manageable tasks. This approach helps them build resilience and tackle daunting tasks with confidence.
5. Authentic and Constructive Praise
Praise can either build or break a growth mindset, depending on how it’s delivered. When Sam completes a puzzle, I avoid saying, “You’re so smart.” Instead, I say, “I’m proud of how you kept trying and didn’t give up.” This reinforces the value of effort rather than innate talent.
In school, I provide specific feedback during consultations, such as, “Your argument here is strong because you provided clear evidence. Next, let’s focus on making your conclusion just as compelling.” This type of feedback motivates students to continue improving.
6. Adapting to Individual Learning Styles
Every child learns differently, and honoring these differences fosters a love for learning. Sam is a hands-on learner, so I often create games or activities to teach him concepts. For example, when learning numbers, we count objects around the house together.
In the classroom, I incorporate visual aids, group activities, and one-on-one consultations to suit different learners. When a student struggles with a concept, I encourage them to explore alternative ways of understanding it, building flexibility in their learning approach.
7. Celebrating the Learning Journey
Too often, we focus on results rather than the process. I make it a point to celebrate Sam’s small wins, like when he writes his first letter “S,” even if it’s a bit wobbly. This reminds him that progress happens step by step.
In school, I organize reflection sessions where students share what they’ve learned, even if they haven’t achieved their final goal yet. These celebrations build a sense of accomplishment and encourage them to keep going.
8. Leading by Example
Children learn best by observing. I try to model a growth mindset in my own life by embracing challenges and admitting my mistakes. When I’m learning something new, like a recipe or a skill, I talk openly about my progress with Sam.
In school, I share stories of my own learning journey, such as how I overcame challenges in preparing my first TOK lesson. This vulnerability shows students that even teachers are always learning—growth is a lifelong process.
Pathway to Lifelong Learning
Cultivating a growth mindset is a gradual process that requires time, practice, and intentionality. It’s not just about teaching children or students to persevere; it’s about creating an environment where curiosity is celebrated, effort is valued, and setbacks are seen as opportunities for growth rather than failures. By fostering this mindset in our homes and classrooms, we empower individuals to approach life with resilience, adaptability, and a sense of purpose.
The journey toward a growth mindset is not always easy—it requires patience, reflection, and persistence from both teachers and parents. Yet, the rewards are immense: children who embrace learning as a lifelong adventure, students who approach challenges with courage, and individuals who are not afraid to dream big and work hard to achieve their goals.
Through my experiences as both an educator and a parent, I’ve come to realize that nurturing a growth mindset is one of the most meaningful gifts we can give to the next generation. It plants the seeds of grit, determination, and optimism, equipping them to navigate an ever-changing world with confidence and creativity.
As we model this mindset in our own lives, we remind ourselves that growth is a continuous process, not a destination. Together, we can inspire a culture of learning, resilience, and self-belief that transcends the classroom and radiates into every aspect of life. By embracing these principles, we prepare not just our children but also ourselves for a lifetime of growth, achievement, and fulfillment.
